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Recently I was talking to a girl, and our discussion landed on feminism. She quickly stated that “I am not a feminist” with so much disgust in her voice. I asked for her reason and she simply claimed, “feminists are angry women, who hate and want to kill men.” I laughed (because she must be joking) and I simply said, “girl you need to go do more research before you start hating on a movement you know nothing about.” Although, I laughed at her that day, I realized just like her I had hated the feminist movement a few years ago for the same reasons. 
    My knowledge of feminism at that moment came from the media, my community, and the tone of people when they say, “you are a feminist” as if being part of the movement is shameful. So, I followed this single story on feminism until I stumbled upon a Chimamanda Adichie book titled We Should All Be Feminists, Bell Hooks book titled Feminism is for Everybody and Sara Ahmed's book titled Living a Feminist life. These books introduced me to the other side of feminism and helped me think deeply on why I was against the movement. They gave a narrative that is different to the single story of feminism that is so popularly accepted. 

Contrary to popular belief, at the roots of the movement lies choice, equality, and advancement of all genders (because there are more than 2 genders). These three beliefs lie at the core of all feminist movement (at least it should be but then there are “feminists” out there who equate this ideology with male benevolence). Simply put feminism is a “movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation and oppression” (Bell Hooks, 2018). 

Why does it focus on Equality and not Equity?
To answer this question, we need to understand the difference between these two words. Equality means impartiality in status, rights, and opportunities. Equity establishes that different people have varying needs of assistance, so systems exists to provide individual’s support based on their specific needs. In simpler English, equity asks for fairness in treatment and outcomes while equality simply demands fairness in treatment. If we based feminism on equity laws will stipulate what should happen, and how it should end. Although it is unjust that we still deal with sexism in the society, it will be unfair to others to be punished for something they do not understand. 
I say unfair because using laws as a staple to make a change would mean a reverse in that change when a new president or prime minister come into power. Also, it is unfair because people who are being punished do not understand why they are being punished. For example, think about when your parents told you not to engage in sexual behavior before a certain age without giving you an explanation as to why. You ended up doing it anyways (at least most of you) but not in front of them to avoid punishment. This is exactly what will happen when we use law to force an idea down people’s throat, they will engage in that sexist behavior but not in front of a feminist (because they cannot take a joke) or a police.

Why are there different types of Feminism?
As I have stated above Feminism is about equality, choice, and advancement of all genders. In western countries, some equality has been achieved but in third world countries equality and class come hand in hand. Women rarely work or they work from home whichever way they do not make significant amount as their partners. For this reason, equality has rarely been achieved. For instance, family law is a huge deal where women have made significant advancement in the west, before they were treated just like children. Fast Forward to this day when women have most power in family law and the court majorly rules in their favor when it comes to issues concerning their family. In Nigeria, unless you are a working-class woman who has money, you would not be able to hire a lawyer talk less of fighting for your right in the family realm. So, an African feminism was created in recognition of the struggle faced by African women. 

In other words, different forms of feminism were created to acknowledge struggles faced by different groups of women. It takes in intersectionality of different members of the group, which accepts that we are fighting together but different women need to fight other battles while standing with the movement. The feminist movement is not solely focused on hating or killing men, women could be angry at sexism (including myself) but being angry at men specifically is giving men too many powers than they already have. In case you are still confused about feminism, feel free to read the books I listed below and read this articles:

https://ideas.ted.com/beware-of-feminism-lite/;

https://ideas.ted.com/feminism-is-more-than-a-noun-its-a-process/;

https://ideas.ted.com/infographic-the-reality-of-violence-against-women/.

These are my top three recommendations, but if you still do not understand the ideology feel free to comment what you are confused about.
I was speaking with a friend the other night and she was quick to tell me how she had done her research and she hates feminism. When I asked her why, she could not give me a tangible answer. Then I realized most people hate on the movement because of the culturally produced single story or their inability to get educated on the subject (because they do not read). So, I am throwing it out to you now: Why do you hate the feminist movement?


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Recently I was talking to a girl, and our discussion landed on feminism. She quickly stated that “I am not a feminist” with so much disgust in her voice. I asked for her reason and she simply claimed, “feminists are angry women, who hate and want to kill men.” I laughed (because she must be joking) and I simply said, “girl you need to go do more research before you start hating on a movement you know nothing about.” Although, I laughed at her that day, I realized just like her I had hated the feminist movement a few years ago for the same reasons. 
    My knowledge of feminism at that moment came from the media, my community, and the tone of people when they say, “you are a feminist” as if being part of the movement is shameful. So, I followed this single story on feminism until I stumbled upon a Chimamanda Adichie book titled We Should All Be Feminists, Bell Hooks book titled Feminism is for Everybody and Sara Ahmed's book titled Living a Feminist life. These books introduced me to the other side of feminism and helped me think deeply on why I was against the movement. They gave a narrative that is different to the single story of feminism that is so popularly accepted. 

Contrary to popular belief, at the roots of the movement lies choice, equality, and advancement of all genders (because there are more than 2 genders). These three beliefs lie at the core of all feminist movement (at least it should be but then there are “feminists” out there who equate this ideology with male benevolence). Simply put feminism is a “movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation and oppression” (Bell Hooks, 2018). 

Why does it focus on Equality and not Equity?
To answer this question, we need to understand the difference between these two words. Equality means impartiality in status, rights, and opportunities. Equity establishes that different people have varying needs of assistance, so systems exists to provide individual’s support based on their specific needs. In simpler English, equity asks for fairness in treatment and outcomes while equality simply demands fairness in treatment. If we based feminism on equity laws will stipulate what should happen, and how it should end. Although it is unjust that we still deal with sexism in the society, it will be unfair to others to be punished for something they do not understand. 
I say unfair because using laws as a staple to make a change would mean a reverse in that change when a new president or prime minister come into power. Also, it is unfair because people who are being punished do not understand why they are being punished. For example, think about when your parents told you not to engage in sexual behavior before a certain age without giving you an explanation as to why. You ended up doing it anyways (at least most of you) but not in front of them to avoid punishment. This is exactly what will happen when we use law to force an idea down people’s throat, they will engage in that sexist behavior but not in front of a feminist (because they cannot take a joke) or a police.

Why are there different types of Feminism?
As I have stated above Feminism is about equality, choice, and advancement of all genders. In western countries, some equality has been achieved but in third world countries equality and class come hand in hand. Women rarely work or they work from home whichever way they do not make significant amount as their partners. For this reason, equality has rarely been achieved. For instance, family law is a huge deal where women have made significant advancement in the west, before they were treated just like children. Fast Forward to this day when women have most power in family law and the court majorly rules in their favor when it comes to issues concerning their family. In Nigeria, unless you are a working-class woman who has money, you would not be able to hire a lawyer talk less of fighting for your right in the family realm. So, an African feminism was created in recognition of the struggle faced by African women. 

In other words, different forms of feminism were created to acknowledge struggles faced by different groups of women. It takes in intersectionality of different members of the group, which accepts that we are fighting together but different women need to fight other battles while standing with the movement. The feminist movement is not solely focused on hating or killing men, women could be angry at sexism (including myself) but being angry at men specifically is giving men too many powers than they already have. In case you are still confused about feminism, feel free to read the books I listed below and read this articles:

https://ideas.ted.com/beware-of-feminism-lite/;

https://ideas.ted.com/feminism-is-more-than-a-noun-its-a-process/;

https://ideas.ted.com/infographic-the-reality-of-violence-against-women/.

These are my top three recommendations, but if you still do not understand the ideology feel free to comment what you are confused about.
I was speaking with a friend the other night and she was quick to tell me how she had done her research and she hates feminism. When I asked her why, she could not give me a tangible answer. Then I realized most people hate on the movement because of the culturally produced single story or their inability to get educated on the subject (because they do not read). So, I am throwing it out to you now: Why do you hate the feminist movement?


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