Many women are facing violence in their relationships but don’t understand how to deal this these partners. Many are times they just let everything lie because of fear and or threats from their partners. But little do they know; the physical abuse can cause deaths. So, how do you deal with a violent partner?
1.Do Not Tolerate Abuse behaviours
Immediately you notice your partner is being abusive warn them. Don’t let them get comfortable with slapping you are pushing you around because this is what graduates to serious beatings. Understand that it is very common for abusers to lead victims to believe that the abuse is the victim's fault. A boyfriend acting aggressive, violent, or manipulative towards you is not your fault. So, don’t let them get comfortable with that.
When your partner starts getting violent get help as soon as possible. Don’t sit and let it aggravate to something unrepairable. You can let the neighbours know so that next time they hear you shout they show up to help. If your partner proves to be difficult and does not listen to advice from friends and neighbours then take it to the next level. Report to the police, women rights activists and any relevant organization.
3.End The Relationship
Physical and emotional abuse should be considered a deal-breaker for a relationship. Regardless of your love for one another, how long you've been together, whether you have kids or pets, or whether you live together, a relationship that involves physical or psychological abuse needs to be over. Continuing to stay may create the impression that you are comfortable with the abuse and your partner will get comfortable abusing you. While ending the relationship do it safely, through correct authorities, document your abuse.
4.Never Offer A Second Chance
Enough is enough. Once you break up, don't go back, attempt to contact, or reconcile with your partner. It's over. Let your abuser get the message clearly. No matter what they say, they will never change, if he has ever abused you once he will always do it. Remember a cheater never loses its spots. Go find love somewhere else.
It is important for victims to understand that physical abuse is illegal and no one has the right to abuse you no matter the amount they paid for your dowry, you are still human and your rights still stand.